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Class 4: How to know your faults and treat them >>>
The author said: It is mandatory that the heart should be free from the rest of the bad qualities, so that it isn’t attached to anything of this worldly life; not looking out for it, neither longing to any of its meanings. So then and only then shall it return to its Lord the return of the resting and satisfied soul. As in Surah (89: 27-30) which means: (It will be said to the pious — believers of Islamic Monothesim): “O (you) the one in (complete) rest and satisfaction! (27) “Come back to your Lord, Well-pleased (yourself) and well-pleasing (unto Him)! (28) “Enter you, then, among My (honoured) slaves, (29) “And enter you My Paradise!” (30)
The author previously mentioned about taking the course between two extremes. Now he says:
When the true middle course between the two extreme was established, rather it is thinner than a hair and sharper than a sword. Then it is no doubt, that whoever is able to do so in the worldly life, the as a reward one will be able to standing firm upon the Sirat above the hell-fire. They are both a sirat al mustaqim.
We learn from this that the more obedient a person is and the more they follow the path of Allaah, the easier that passing over the fire will be for them.
And because of the difficulty to stand firm, the slave was ordered to say every day ‘ihdi nas-siratal mustaqeem’. That is the wisdom of why we have to recite this in every rak’ah in salaah, otherwise salaah is not valid. This shows the desperate need of us for this du’aa – for asking Allaah that we be guided. What if one is already guided? Then this asking includes 3 things:
- 1. Being guided to straight path when you are not,
- 2. being firm upon that guidance and
- 3. asking for more and further guidance, as guidance increases and decreases. For Allaah said Surah Maryam, 19:76 which means: “And Allah increases those in guidance those who walk aright.”
Al-imaan increases and decreases – this is the Aqeedah of Ahlus sunnah wal Jamaa’
He says: And whoever wasn’t able to stand firm, then let him work on getting close to standing firm. Does it mean that you are either fully on guidance or not? Some people say if I’m going to be a pious person, I either do everything right or nothing right. And that is wrong – We will never get to that level, unless work on it by doing what we can. What is better and freer from sin? Doing more mistakes or less? There is no doubt that doing less sins is better.
He says: For one will not be saved except by the righteous good deeds. (we know we have to know of the Mercy of Allah also, but take the means and reasons) And the good deeds do not come out except from good character, so let everyone inspect his qualities and characters. Let him get busy with one treatment at a time (especially those things which are difficult).
Ustaadh says: ^^^ This saying of the author could be argued. We don’t know of any evidence which says to work on a bad quality one at a time, rather we should work on whatever we can as long as it can be established. Perhaps the author meant something which we have not fully understood as of yet, he is a scholar and I am not. He could mean focus on the root of each problem, one at a time and Allah Knows Best.
And let the committed ones, bear with patience reluctantly upon the difficultly of this matter for in due time it will be pleasing to him, just as it is pleasing for the child to wean after hating to, to the point that if he was put back on the breast he would dislike it. When feeding on other than his mother’s milk, if he has put back on his mother’s milk, he will dislike it.
***Beautiful reminder: Whoever acknowledged this short life span he is living compared to the length of the hereafter he will tolerate the burden of a few days of travel, for a lifetime of satisfaction.***
We say: 60-70 is the average lifespan. Compare 60 years to paradise which will be eternal. Paradise will not be 50 years, not 100,000 not a trillion, it is forever! When you compare this life to the hereafter, it is even less than a day.
Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala says (20:102-104) which means: “The Day the Horn will be blown. And We will gather the criminals, that Day, blue-eyed. They will murmur among themselves, “You remained not but ten [days in the world].” We are most knowing of what they say when the best of them in manner will say, “You remained not but one day.” And they ask you about the mountains, so say, “My Lord will blow them away with a blast.”
One day in front of eternity … is it worth wasting, is it worth this heedlessness? This proves we are looking to the present not the future.
Ibnal Jawzi said: the animal works more for what is ahead, more than a lot of humans do. The ant works very hard in a certain season to suffice himself in the other.
Arabs say: For when travelling, people will be grateful to reach their destination at dawn. Be prepared for this short distance of travel although there will definitely be many difficulties. But remember surah ankabut ayah 1-3 which means: Do people think that they will be left alone because they say: “We believe,” and will not be tested (2) And We indeed tested those who were before them. And Allâh will certainly make (it) known (the truth of) those who are true, and will certainly make (it) known (the falsehood of) those who are liars, (although Allâh knows all that before putting them to test). (3)
So is your saying you believe for real or is it just a saying? Allah tests those He loves, so he can expiate the sin and lift the ranks. He is testing you only for your own benefit. If we are patient, get the reward, if not we will be punished.
This is why the prophets were tested twice as much- as it came in the hadeeth: The people who are tested the most are the prophet then those like them, then those like them.
People are tested according to their level of piety/eemaan. Higher imaan means stronger level of tests.
This next section is explaining one of the main diseases of our time (now) which was also a main diseases in his time, so what about our time. He said: If Allah wanted good for HIs slave, he will show him his faults so whoever had an insight, – baseerah (islaamic knowledge) his faults won’t be hidden from him.
It is a good reminder from the Shaykh to seek knowledge, otherwise you won’t know right from wrong. Just as if you don’t know how to pray right, you won’t pray right. If you don’t know how to bring yourself to Allah with a clean heart, you won’t bring yourself with a clean heart. And knowing how has been totally explained by the Prophet sallallaahu alaiyhi wa salam and the scholars after him.
Allah will show him his faults, by ‘ilm. If he knows his mistakes, it will be curable, but most people are ignorant of their mistakes and their faults! One of them spots the speck in his brothers eyes and doesn’t see the trunk in his own eyes. (Most of the problems (Amongst those giving dawah) that occur today are due to this.)
He said: So whoever wants to discover his faults, then he has 4 ways to do so:
1) Sits under a sheikh / shiekha who is knowledgeable well familiar with the faults of oneself letting him or her know his own mistakes. (This is if you don’t know your mistakes, while you are sitting with that person they can indicate your faults. We know he is correct to help you if he is on the way of the Salaf and implements on himself). And this is hard to find nowadays (he was taking about in the 500-600 after Hijrah! 800 years ago. But not impossible. So he said: whoever got his hands on one, has found a skilful doctor who he shouldn’t let go of.) Don’t just take ‘ilm from them. Eg students of Imam Malik rahimahullah, we learnt discipline from our imam before we learn knowledge. Pick up his good qualities, learn by his examples.
2) Seeks a sincere, truthful, pious, bright friend and set him up as a watcher over himself. To bring his attention to what is disliked of his qualities and actions. Could be that you seek his advice. Or could be that you love that person so are more conscience of his character around him. Proof from companion: Umar ibn al khattab radiAllahu anhu said: Allah have Mercy on anyone who has gifted to us our faults and mistakes. (When someone confronts your mistake this is a gift from Allah, the person who truly loves you for the sake of Allah, can’t rest until you have what he loves for himself).
Umar radiAllahu anhu once asked Hudayfah radiAllahu anhu: Am I of the hypocrites? He asked Hudayfah because the Prophet sallallaahu aliyhi wasallam enclosed the names of the munafiqeen to Hudaifah and no one else.
Umar wanted to know – Did the Prophet sallallaahu aliyhi wasallam mention my name among those names?
The author explains: How could some like ‘Umar say this, he who the Prophet sallallaahu aliyhi wasallam said the shaytan would take another way if saw him. The more a person is alert of himself, the more cautious he is and blameful to himself. He is always recompensing himself, what did I do wrong today? However, finding such a friend in these times is very rare. Why? He explains: you can barely find a friend who avoids flattering you or avoids envying you and doesn’t exceed the limits.
He then said: And the salaf would love who point out to them, their mistakes. And now most of us despise most the one who tells us our mistakes. And this is proof of lack of imaan.
Parable: Because the bad characteristics are like scorpions. If someone would alert us to a scorpion under our clothes, we would be so grateful to him for telling us and immediately get busy with killing it. But the bad characteristics are more dangerous that the scorpions. (In the case of the scorpion, who has pride about accepting the advice given to you)
3) Get to know your own mistakes from the mouth of your enemies. Imam Shafi’I rahimahullah said: For the look of enmity, brings out faults. The pleasing eye looking at you will make high mention of your good qualities. And the benefit one gets from his enemy exposing his faults is more that a friend who flatters and hides your faults.
4) Then everything he sees bad in them, let him avoid it in himself. Take others as a mirror, learn from their bad characteristics.
One looking to be a better person should take mingling with people as a medicine. Keeping ties with family, visiting the ill, fulfilling the rights or to benefit for yourself as mentioned above, this is when you should be around the people. Otherwise it isbetter to stay alone, especially if seeking `ilm. Not distracted and entertaining the bad things they could do, eg: backbiting with people.
The author does not mean you purposefully hang around with bad people, but he means in your community you may see people do bad things, take them as a lesson to stay away from what they hate. And try to advise in a gentle and beautiful way, with wisdom so they will accept it.
Alhamdulillaah wassalaatu wassalaam alaa Rasuulillaah. Should anyone notice a mistake in the notes, kindly mention it in the comment section below, Baarakallaahu feekum!